Your Critics are Your Friends Too

When the world has a negative attitude towards criticism and critics, we should realise and accept that our critics are our friends too and their criticism is like an unpolished diamond. It looks ugly and usually comes unsolicited, so we conveniently ignore it without regret.

Some even see criticism as an attack and become defensive; close their minds and ignore the criticism and end up accusing the critic. But learn to be like a professional diamond cutter who can take that raw, unpolished rock and turn it into something precious

You see, it’s all about perspective, the way you receive the criticism – you have the power to let a critic affect you in a constructive or destructive way. It’s really your choice.

People can be nasty when they criticise you, but it is your choice to decide which of the statements can be contested, ignored, or profited from. It’s all about what kind of person you really want to be. Therefore, you can always decide to learn how to deal with criticism so that you learn something from it and improve yourself.

How to Profit through Criticism?

Here are some essential tips that will help you handle criticism well and profit from it.

Different point of View:

However smart we are and how much ever hard we work, there’s always room for us to improve. Sometimes we do not know where the problem really is. Criticism can be wrong but it always helps us to see the whole issue from another person’s point of view and helps us to think in another direction. Criticism can touch some very sensitive spots sometimes – an aspect that can reveal unresolved issues with yourself.

Looking at the bright side:

Criticism is actually an opportunity to change your thought processes so that you escape deliberate damage! Now anthropologists say that 80 percent of our thoughts are negative. In that way, 80% of the time a critic is actually forcing us to be positive.

When you’re looking at something in a negative way, it’s more likely to have a negative outcome. The same goes with criticism – if you’re perceiving criticism as negative, the feelings of frustration and anger will trouble you. On the other hand, if you’re looking at the criticism with positive eyes, you’ll feel the need to become a better person, to do something better.

No matter the intention and the style of someone’s criticism, there’s always hidden a little piece of truth. Yes, criticism is nothing less than opportunities to improve something in yourself.

Emotional Strength:

We like it when others praise us. But it is the one who criticizes that challenges us and makes us grow. The one who isn’t afraid to tell you the truth, even when it hurts, makes us better. Accepting criticism actually builds your mind muscle. It makes your emotions work for you, instead of against you.

How to process a Criticism well:

The key is to change the way we process criticism; we must turn every negative comment into constructive advice. This is done by asking yourself these questions:

  • What can I learn from this person’s perspective?
  • How can I use this feedback to improve?

Control yourself – don’t be impulsive

We know criticism is perceived as a form of attack, so our first impulsive reaction is to fight back and to defend ourselves.

Critics generally don’t sound nice. Everyone has their own way of saying things therefore you need to decide how you will react. If you can teach your mind not to act on your impulses and really pay attention to what the other person wants to say, you are automatically allowing logic and reason to step in, so you can act like a mature, wise person.

Be grateful

There are many forms of criticism, some are rude, some are constructive some are helpful, etc. So in spite of the critic’s intention, we should be grateful that he took his time to share his perspective with you. Everybody likes to feel appreciated.

Thanking them is to show our gratitude to them. It can also make some friends by simply winning their respect by appreciating their criticism.

The trouble with most of us is that we would rather be ruined by praise than saved by criticism

– Norman Vincent Peale

In summary, be in control of your reactions – remembering this, every time someone criticises you, it is important. Letting a critic affect us negatively is letting someone control how we feel or what we believe.

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